Chances are good you missed the drama this evening.
Or, according to my twitter feed, you missed it (if you’re not one of the five people involved in the discussion).
I’m not going to name names (but my replies are all still in my twitter feed if you want to check them out), but what happened was that my girl Susie was set upon by someone who found her twitter handle offensive.
Now, you know that Susie started the Insatiable Booksluts blog, and that her twitter name is @thebooksluts, right?
I have always found the name of the blog to be hilarious and irreverent and a way to make “slut” not such a bad thing. Being slutty for books? THAT IS THE MOST FABULOUS. And I thought that before we were friends and LONG before I began contributing over there.
So, basically what we have here is someone who told us we’re bad feminists because we use the word “slut.”
I told her it was probably for the best that she missed Cunt Week (and I’m being supersrs here, it’s prolly a good thing she missed it, or her head might have exploded), and then this whole thing kind of blew up (which, let’s be srs, I was hoping would happen when I baited her with that line) into us being told that we’re kind of wrecking the future by using such misogynist language.
I have strong feelings about this.
When I was a kid, I was allowed to speak however I wanted at home, as long as I watched my mouth in public.
I was told that words only have the power you give them.
This is what I’m teaching my children.
Whatever other problems I have with my mother, the only word I ever saw make her cry was when her now ex-husband called her a “dumb cunt.”
I won’t let that word hurt me.
I won’t let the word slut hurt me.
I won’t let being called a twat, or a bitch or any other gender related pejorative hurt me.
Because I own them.
I am a total bitch.
I’m a bookslut.
I’m a cunt.
And I hope my daughter grows up knowing that these are just words.
And that they can’t hurt her any more than I’ve allowed them to hurt me.
So, yeah – maybe our terminology is offensive, but don’t tell me we don’t have the right to take these words back.