You’ve been letting this whole blogging thing get to you lately. You’re stressing yourself out and comparing yourself to other bloggers, but that’s not fair. You’re you. You’re not them, so why are you allowing yourself to feel down when you see that someone whose content you deem inferior (there you go with your snobbery again) has twice as many followers/comments/views as you? You really need to knock that shit off.
The people who read your blog read it for what you (you, uniquely) bring to the table. They don’t expect you to be anyone else, because if they did, they would be reading that other blog and not yours. Remember last year when Mandy wrote her Blogging Manifesto? You need something like that to remind you why you’re even here.
To make things simpler for you, I’ve compiled a list of things I hope you’ll keep in mind when you’re frustrated with how you think things are going (plus, we both know you love the shit out of lists).
- Your stats are not indicative of your worth as a blogger, or as a person. You’ve done so much better lately, I’m proud that you no longer check them as much – but you still freak out when you think you’ve posted something fantastic and you don’t think enough people are reading. Please stop that. Just because something resonated with you, doesn’t mean it will push the buttons of everyone else on the planet.
- You will stop looking down on people who only post the various weekly memes. Just because it isn’t for you (because you HATE them) doesn’t mean other people don’t think they have worth. You are not everyone else, and you can just not participate (like you have been for always). Don’t be tempted to fall into that trap, though – we both know that if you did, it would only be for the sake of page views. You’re better than that.
- You will stop apologizing for absences/breaks from blogging. Everyone has shit happen to them in their real lives. They don’t expect you to be any different. You do not need to explain, and you really need to work on that apologizing for everything thing that you do, anyway.
- You need to remember the joy you felt when people first started reading and commenting. Be happy when someone new comments, but don’t be sad when people stop following/commenting. Not everything is about you. Maybe they have their own shit going on. The previous point? It doesn’t just apply to you.
- Stop making everything the end of the world. Seriously. It’s annoying and you know you hate when you do that.
- You will STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO EVERYONE ELSE. Dude. Even I’m starting to get pissed off at you about this one. Knock it off. You’re coming across like a whiny asshole. Stop it.
- You don’t have to review everything you read. You’re doing better about this one this year, but I know you, and I know you’re still looking at all the things you’ve read so far thinking “I really should try to write about that at some point.” No. You don’t. Stop it. If you force it, it’s worse than just not writing at all.
- If you find yourself worrying/agonizing about your blog, take a step back. This is something you need to get better about. You do this a lot, and you let it get you down. This is not healthy. Writing this blog is not your job. You started this blog for fun (and to get out of NaNoWriMo, but that’s another thing entirely), and when it stops being fun you’re missing the point. That’s not to say you can’t still write about things that make you angry, just…stop sweating it, okay? For realsies.
You’re worth reading, but you are worrying too much. Keep this around to re-read when you’re getting sad/frustrated/annoyed/furious. No, don’t argue with me, just do it. But not like Nike, cos you don’t like their shoes anyway.